Testimony Tuesday: ‘Post It’ Or It Never Happened

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I recently held a conversation with someone about my lack of sharing my courtship on social media. I was respectfully criticized and told that people who keep their significant others a “secret” usually either do not want to be in the relationship, are ashamed of going in and out of relationships, etc. In any event, I thought the topic would be perfect for a Testimony Tuesday post.

As a Christian, I believe in using wisdom; and following the Word of God. And, correct me if I’m wrong, but I do not recall any stories in the scriptures of a man and woman courting or dating. It just didn’t really exist back then. Both “dating” and “courting” are man- made events. Historically, people saw each other and simply purposed to marry. The time between the initial meet up and the marriage, I cannot tell you. But I will say that I do not believe it is in God’s perfect will for His people to date. Now with that being said, I do not think it is a sin to “date,” I just do not find the importance in sharing photos, videos, of me dating/courting. (No shade to those who do; because I actually love seeing people share their love.)

Whether or not you want to post your significant other is simply subjective. Just use wisdom before doing so because everything has a spiritual implication. Everyone doesn’t have good intentions for you. Spiritual people understand that sharing too much can bring unwarranted attention, spiritual attacks, and a bunch of other things that you do not think about before sharing such information. Besides, how many of us post and share things for the right reasons? I recently read an article in Time Magazine that said that oversharing on social media is a result of trying to control anxiety. The article continued to say people biologically have a compulsion to overshare bits and pieces of their lives.

But does oversharing really manage your issues with anxiety?

Some people also share to brag. “Look at me! I’m in a beautiful relationship!” Are you even really? 

…or are you just sharing because you want people to believe you’re in a beautiful relationship. I want you to know that whether you’re in a beautiful relationship or not, we can only know when you share!

While people bare themselves for the world to see, I simply enjoy keeping private things private and public things public. Fashion = public. Who I walk with = private. Does it mean I’m against posting him? No. I could share a picture right now on this blog post. But I rather share a picture of us married, instead of courting. Now marriage! Yes marriage is something God approves of! This year, I just want to do more of what God approves of…and less of what the world approves of 🙂

Remember these are my own personal opinions and convictions.