Testimony Tuesday: Stop Asking God for Answers He’s Given You Wisdom to Answer Yourself

….how much spiritual ground are you covering in asking for things you already have been given?

Photography by Sade Solomon


Jacket: H&M (size 4) ; Sweater: Banana Republic (size small) ; Trousers: H&M (size 6) ; Shoes: Banana RepublicBag: Forever 21 ; Necklace: BaubleBar

I recall a conversation I held with a friend a few years ago where she told me that God told her how to style her hair and what color to wear because that day she would meet her husband. In my mind, I gave her the ultimate side-eye because I knew for a fact the voice she was hearing wasn’t from God. This isn’t to say that God, in His omnipotence,  cannot tell someone what to wear and how to style their hair. God has and can continue to do many things that seem unconventional. BUT, if God instructs you, in even the most minute details of your life, and you are fully obedient, can you still fail? If yes, then God ceases to be God and your faith in Him is in vain. Anyway- years later, same friend still isn’t married. And guy she thought was her husband is now married to someone else.

Sometimes we like to over-spiritualize (not a word but rock with it) things just to sound “deep” in the things of God.  But lets face it. Is God really telling you to brush your teeth at 4:37 pm as opposed to when you wake up in the morning? Because if He is, then I need to re-evaluate my relationship with Him and yearn for the one you have, instead.

It always makes me chuckle when I hear some of you share with me that you’re waiting for God to tell you whether or not you should move forward with a job, or a relationship, or purchasing a vehicle, etc. I mean, kudos to you for being 100% dependent on the promptings of the Holy Spirit. BUT did it ever occur to you that God gives us wisdom (or provides it when we ask) to make these decisions? If you don’t know that it is wise to brush your teeth in the morning before heading out of the house to potentially interact with others; if you don’t know that it is wise to do so to ensure your teeth and breath are clean, than I’m curious to see how God will inform you.

Some of the things you are waiting for God to speak to you about, He has already provided you the answer through wisdom and understanding. For example, “should I buy this car God?” Well… let’s go through the checkpoint, shall we?

  1. Is there a need for a car? And is there a need for that particular make and model?
  2. Can you afford the car? Are you incurring any debt as a result of the purchase? Can you afford to pay the note and insurance every month? Does God want debt for you?
  3. Should you be using the money for things of more importance?

These are some of the questions we ask God that probably make Him shake His head. My examples can sound ridiculous but lets think about some other questions we might’ve asked God to answer that He already gave us the wisdom to answer for ourselves.

For some time now, I’ve been asking God for more collaborations and campaigns; and all the while, I haven’t been reaching out to ANYONE or ANY BUSINESS. Then, the other day I shot with my blogger boo, Sade in front of  a fairly new nail salon in the Bronx.  We decided to walk in and speak with the owner about potential collaboration opportunities. The conversation led to a collaborative project a few weeks later. We can certainly give glory and honor to God for the divine encounter with the nail salon owner. Of course. BUT God also gave me wisdom to understand that in THIS BUSINESS, networking is important. Sharing what you do with people is important. Introducing yourself and your craft to businesses is important. But the key is wisdom…and wisdom from ABOVE. God didn’t need to tell me, “MY BELOVED DAUGHTER, TAKE PHOTOS ON BRUCKNER BLVD WITH SADE IN FRONT OF SAINT GLAM NAIL BAR.”

I want you to ask yourself a few questions. Am I asking God questions He has already given me the answer to? Have I asked God for wisdom? Am I seeking to gain understanding? The answer to those questions can help you tremendously in your indecisiveness.

Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. [Proverbs 4:7]

If any of you lacks wisdom [to guide him through a decision or circumstance], he is to ask of [our benevolent] God, who gives to everyone generously and without rebuke or blame, and it will be given to him. [James 1:5]

Have a blessed day!




  1. December 6, 2017 / 1:49 pm

    Amen! Congrats on that collaboration! I’m literally in this place right now. A major step of faith has been presented to me in the form of a business idea and the first thing I retreated to was my comfort zone of fear. Although, I feel like I’m seeing little signs of this is a chance God wants me to take, I’m still here waiting for that voice in the sky to say “The Lord thy God says do this”..and even then I’d probably still say, you sure? lol. Awesome post and seems like more confirmation for me.

  2. Aaron
    December 29, 2017 / 9:33 am

    Jeremiah 17:9 says “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” This is the voice that most people are listening to. Some mistakenly believe it is God. It is not. God speaks to us through the Bible so we need to read it if we want to hear God speak to us.

    • justmissedtherunway
      December 29, 2017 / 9:52 am

      Was it your heart that lead you to pledge Kappa Alpha Psi?

  3. Veronique
    January 21, 2018 / 9:49 pm

    I love the article!
    Thank you very much, I’m really glad that I found you. I do have a similar vision on Fashion (Modest) + Faith.
    Thank you for being an inspiration for me!

    God bless you.

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