Testimony Tuesday: The REAL Role of the Woman

… because the nature of the godly woman is contrary to the nature of the women of the world.

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As a recently engaged woman, the top of my priority list is to learn to be the woman and wife that God commands for me to be. I don’t know everything but one thing I do know is that it will only take the grace of God by His Holy Spirit to be that woman. I’m currently in pre-marital counseling, reading books on Godly marriages, and leading a weekly bridal prayer line for brides-to-be and women desiring marriage. Yesterday, I began a wife mentoring series with a ministry I admire so much, Kingdom Full Tabernacle- under the leadership of Pastor Dominic and Lady Lesley Osei. For two weeks, I’m commissioned to read, study and discuss scriptures that reveal what a wife should look and act like.

Today’s topic is on Nurturing Woman,and the specific Scripture(s) that inspired today’s post is from Titus 2:3-5 (NIV).

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

These verses in the Bible have ministered to me in different ways every time I read them. Today’s post won’t be an exegesis of the above verses, or even my interpretation of them in its entirety, but I believe any bride-to-be or woman desiring marriage should meditate on what Apostle Paul is saying to Titus.

My biggest issue pertaining to this text is the lack of older women teaching the younger. Not to say there aren’t any at all, but I do wish there were more in my life, particularly. I’ve been blessed with a mother who exemplified this kind of love to her husband and children; but growing up, I didn’t see too much of it outside of the confines of my own home.

In today’s society, it seems the ‘Lady Boss’ narrative takes precedence over the ‘Titus 2’  woman. All around us are business women who scream for equal pay, equal respect, and equal responsibilities. While I’m all for equal pay regarding the SAME ROLES, I do not think women and men are born to be equals in the context the world fights for us to be.

We are encouraged to adopt the title of “king” as if “queen” isn’t enough and told to look down on all men, when the few make mistakes. The role of the house wife is deliberately demeaned, there’s no place for kindness with “boss bi$t&h” titles thrown to and fro, and purity is entirely too oppressive for the modern young woman. To make matters worst, this hypersensitive society gives no platform for diversity in thought. So left up to them, marriage God’s way would be abolished.

As I prepare for marriage, I can’t help to realize how exposure to these worldly ideas have shaped how I act and react. Scriptures also declare in Genesis 3:16 Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. Desire for our husbands in this context means to rule over them, and this was a curse on women after the fall of Adam & Eve. But Glory be to God that curses are reversed in Christ Jesus. The key is to know what these curses are and denounce them under the power of the blood of Jesus Christ.

In the end, I’m retraining my mind to look at marriage and the role of woman God’s way. Very difficult to reverse years of societal influence; but I know I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.



  1. Yalana Allen
    April 18, 2018 / 12:57 pm

    I love, love , love your post!! I got married last year and we’ll be celebrating our 1 year anniversary on June 3rd. I was glad we prepared ourselves through premarital counseling. I wanted to get a better understanding of how a Godly woman and wife is supposed to be and I learned so much about that and myself through the classes, prayer, and reading different books. I’ve also read devotionals on the Bible app as well and still do. It’s really sad when women in this society view God’s definition of marriage as the man having complete control over everything including his wife. That is so not the case! Being the control freak that I am, I’ve learned to step back but also state my concerns but ultimately it’s the husband who makes the decision. And if he is the man that God called him to be then that shouldn’t be a problem. I’ve seen so many marriages that fall apart but they stay together to save face but end up sleeping in different bedrooms. I told myself that would not be my marriage! I also don’t care for the term, “bad b****” too. You can be a strong woman but also submit to your husband. I know this is a long comment but I had to comment on this. Plus I really like those pants and I have to get them!!

    • justmissedtherunway
      April 18, 2018 / 1:10 pm

      Wow! So so insightful Yalana! God bless you for sharing! Pray I receive grace in my marriage 😘

  2. Ama
    July 28, 2018 / 12:12 pm

    Wow . Settling women kind back a milllenia all in the name of marriage. Even your right to self expression was hard won by those ‘sensitive’ women you despise . All this justification of agreeing to be less so he can be more. Exactly the problem with men today raised by women like you .So naive. Good luck with that.

    • justmissedtherunway
      July 28, 2018 / 12:17 pm

      Which sensitive women did I tell you that I despised, please? And when did I say women are to be less so that men can be more?
      This comment in confusing and troubling altogether.

      All the same, I’ll keep luck for you. I’m more interested in grace.

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