Epistle No. 1 – It Didn’t Have Anything to Do With You

Presenting you with a possible explanation regarding your heartbreak.

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A couple of weeks ago, I hosted the Broken, But Not Ashamed Conference, and since then I have been pondering about the topic of heart break in general. I’ve been thinking about why heart break happens, in particular, to genuine and well meaning people. I like to think I am one of those people; those who are genuine and well-meaning. And yet still I suffered heartbreak in the past. And I’m sure there are many of you who have experienced the same but can’t wrap your head around why.

May I present to you a possible reason for your heart break? God wants you to have fellowship with Him.

God has allowed, and maybe even ordained, your heart to break so that you could give Him the broken pieces, have fellowship with Him, and so that He show you that with Him, restoration, joy and peace is made available. Somewhere along the journey of your life, you have been self-sufficient, distracted or even dependent on others for the joy and fulfillment that only God can give. Somewhere along the journey of your life, you have drifted away from the will of God to love Him first with all your mind, body and soul; and you have given that love to someone or something.

The Almighty God does not take pleasure in sharing His Glory or His fellowship with you, and He is a very jealous God. So it hurts Him when we replace Him with people and/or things. When we give to others, what belongs to God, it makes Him angry. But although God is a jealous God, He doesn’t stop pursuing us. And if He has to break our hearts in the process of pursuing us, He will.

I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him. 2 Corinthians 11:2

Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.  Exodus 34:14

But sometimes, we have not worshipped other gods or given to others, what belongs to God. Sometimes we are not doing anything expressly stated in scriptures as sin, yet we still suffer heartbreak. And it leaves us confused about the lovingkindness of our God. But I want you to know that  you don’t need to question God’s character. He remains a loving and merciful God. He may just be using the heartbreak to get us into fellowship with Him.

Before we could even have access to fellowship with God, God had to break His own heart by sending His only Begotten Son to die on the cross for you and I. So God is no stranger to heartbreak. But He recognizes that when our heart is broken, we turn to Him. So heartbreak is needed for us to recognize that God is our Source of strength and comfort.

One of the scriptures that I have been meditating on this week has reminded me that God has used the hardships and the trials of our lives to bring us to total dependence and reliance on Him.

Indeed we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 2 Corinthians 1:9

I recall being so badly broken that I too felt I received the sentence of death. I wasn’t sure how I would be able to survive feeling that pain, and it led me to severe depression. I recall asking God to intervene because I wouldn’t be able to survive on my own. I now understand that my heartbreak was ordained by God so that I could get to that place of…not being totally broken, but totally dependent on the one that can save.

Usually when we get to the end of ourselves, we get to the beginning of a beautiful fellowship with God.

9 years later, I can say in total confidence that God has kept me. God did not cause me to die; He rather answered me by being my All in All. I gave Him my brokenness and He led me on a beautiful journey to wholeness. By God’s grace and unwavering mercy, He started in me a fellowship with Him that has completely changed the trajectory of my life. People ask me how I can be so bold and confident in God. To which I typically answer- God’s Spirit SAVED and EMPOWERED me. His Spirit within me has comforted me, and burned me with a fire that can never die.

I no longer look to people and things for joy and fulfillment. I look to the One in Whom my help comes from. My help comes from the Lord.

My life has been a testimony of what brokenness can lead to if only you allow God in. My life long desire is for all people to come to such sufficiency in Christ.

By God’s grace, I’ll be hosting the second series to the Broken, But Not Ashamed Conference! God willing, on Friday I’ll share more details regarding date and location! But bookmark Saturday, July 2nd!

That’s right! We’re having our first ever in -person event! Talk with you soon!


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