Modest Dressing Requires These Three Things

Most Christians know they’re to be modest, but most Christians don’t really understand how.



Denim Shirt: here ; Jeans: Here ; Bag: here ; Sandals: here ; Earrings: F21 old

This year marks my 10th year of blogging/ influencing- wow, can’t believe I’m saying that. But  I think it’s pretty safe to say that I was among the first Christian bloggers/influencers to celebrate and highlight modest fashion.  I still recall the very first time the Holy Spirit convicted me of something I wore on my blog. It was a blog post from 2015 called Fitted . And ironically the dress was also from H&M just like this denim set. The following day, I shared my convictions on the dress with another blog post ( shoot in retrospect that outfit wasn’t that modest either lol) and since then I’ve been trying – while sometimes I come short- to be more intentional about glorifying God with what I wear.

Who I am today is very much different from who I was in 2015. As a child of God, I aimed to dress to please my Father. And as a child of God- my aim is to reflect to the world Who my Father is. I tried  to make it my aim to bring glory to my Father in all things, including my heart and my dressing. As a child of God I dressed modestly because my Father desires all the glory; and for His child to be set apart from the world.

But by the grace of God I have now added a few titles to my identify.  Today, in addition, to being a child of God, I am also a woman of God and a wife to Minister Dr. Eric Kwart. These titles come with so much more responsibilities and expectations that 2015 Christina didn’t have to be concerned with. For example, now as a wife to one husband- everything I do must be done through the lens of not only God’s approval but also my husband’s approval. Hear what the Bible has to say in regards to marriage:

Ephesians 5: 22-23 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 

1 Corinthians 7: 34  …An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.

As a woman married especially to a man of God in particular- not only do I have to dress to please my husband; but what I wear must also be a reflection of the God we BOTH worship and serve. There have been times I thought my outfit passed the “modest” test; but my husband did not approve. And because of his disapproval, I had to alter or change my outfit. The world- riddled in the feminist agenda- wants us to believe that women, married or unmarried, should be independent in thought, speech and actions. But children of God are held to a higher standard…a standard that does not have to be understood but must be withheld.

I’m not only a married woman now, but I am also a woman of God. The title woman of God, contrary to popular belief, is not a title for every woman in the faith. But it is solely for the women in the faith called and/or is operating in fivefold ministry in one capacity or the other. As a woman of God and a priest of God, I am ‘holiness unto the Lord,’ and my garments must reflect that holiness. I recall when I was preparing to be ordained as a minister of the Gospel, my pastor emphasized that ministers were holiness unto the Lord, which needed to be reflected in every facet of our lives.

Exodus 39: 30-31 They made the plate, the sacred emblem, out of pure gold and engraved on it, like an inscription on a seal: holy to the Lord. 31 Then they fastened a blue cord to it to attach it to the turban, as the Lord commanded Moses.

Just as the high priest in the Old Testament wore a plate on their forehead that read ‘ holy to the Lord,’ so were we to be holiness in everything,

Now maybe you’re not a wife/husband or even a minister. I want you to know that modesty is still a requirement for you as a child of God. Modest dressing will not just ‘come to you’ when you get saved. It requires intentionality. It also requires understanding! Here are three things you should keep in mind while pursuing modest dressing:

  1. Modesty isn’t a trend. It is a reflection of the heart. 

The bible says in Proverbs 4: 23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from itIf everything we do flows from our hearts, then how we dress is an indication of what is in our hearts too. If you want to dress more modestly, don’t start at changing your wardrobe. Start at changing your heart. Your heart will transform with the entrance of light. And light is the Word of God. While you read the scriptures, you will draw closer to God, Who will transform your heart, which will in turn transform your dressing. You will no longer care to impress and bring attention to yourself- but rather to Christ.

2.  Modesty will not always be trending. Don’t look to the world to tell you how to be or dress modestly.

Interestingly enough modest clothing is trending right now. But not because they’re modest, But more so because baggy, loose fitting clothing is trending.  Don’t ever look to the world to approve of your outfit. Does God approve of your outfit? If so, then you’re good to go.

3. Modesty will never be one size fits all,

What may be modest for me, may not be modest for you and vice versa. Let the Holy Spirit speak to you concerning your dressing. Slimmer build people can get away with a lot more clothing options than curvier/ bigger people can. As a result, it is important to ask the Lord about your outfit before your church, or your friends, or pastors or anyone else for that matter.


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1 Comment

  1. Aisha
    September 19, 2023 / 6:24 pm

    So Good! Thanks for sharing this.

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