Epistle No. 9- Be Intentional About How You Spend Your Time

The valuable lesson learned after being turned down by 3 nail salons.


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I get my nails done every 2-3 weeks and it’s been like this for over 15 years and counting. But since I do my nails so often with some form of acrylic or hard gel, I try to give my nail beds a break aftera  few months by removing all products and going bare or wearing press on nails.

Yesterday while running errands I decided to get my hard gel set removed. I went to a random nail salon that had absolutely no customers. The nail tech asked me what I wanted to have done. I told her just hard gel removal. She suggested a refill but I told her I only had 20 minutes to spare for a removal. To which she told me that she would not be able to do it in less than 40 minutes. Even though that was a complete lie, I got up and quickly drove to the next nail salon. The second salon told me they did not have time to do a removal, although there were at least two nail techs seated and available. Crunched on time, I left without responding and went to the next salon. The third nail salon told me I would need to return 20 minutes before closing and also get a manicure to have it removed because they too, did not have time.

Frustrated and completely out of time, I gave up on my quest to have my hard gel removed and made my way to pick up my daughter from school. While driving, the Lord ministered to me regarding what happened. He showed me that these businesses rejected my requests because they did not want to waste any time on a $20 service. First off, getting $20 from a first time customer for a 20-30 minute service was probably not a good use of their time. If they would have done this service for me and another customer came in wanting a more expensive service, they would’ve been at risk of losing that customer and greater profit.

As children of God, we must also be careful and intentional about how we spend our time and what we agree to entertain. Not every financial opportunity is a good one. Not every call should be answered. Not every message responded to. Not every job opportunity should be accepted. The Bible says in Ephesians 5: 15-17:

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. 

It is very easy to become idle or careless with your time when you don’t have goals in place. For these nail salons, my desire for service probably didn’t align with their business revenue goals. And because they had goals in place they were able to discern what kind of services should be accepted and which should be rejected. And I don’t have to understand but I must respect it. 

As a child of God, when you understand what the will of the Lord is concerning your life, you too will get in the habit of rejecting things that don’t align. You have to get comfortable with saying ‘no’ to people, services and things;  and you have to get comfortable with disappointing people. You also have to get comfortable with people misunderstanding you and the vision of obedience to God that you have for your life.

I’m reminded of these very gripping words of Jesus in Matthew 10: 34-35:

Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law .

As a Christian, the reality is that we will have differing mindsets, goals, and values from people in the world. And there should be such a stark contrast between the world and Christians that it is almost as if the divide was cut with a knife (or sword if we’re continuing with the words of Jesus). If we’re going to hold firmly the truths laid out in the Word of God, it will definitely come with some resistance. But this is why Jesus wants you to know that He didn’t come to the earth to bring peace between you and the world. Yes- even the world that includes your family and friends.

Be focused and stand firm on your goals and values, and reject those people and things sent to distract you.


1 Comment

  1. Sals
    October 6, 2023 / 2:34 pm

    This was so timely, hmm currently in my Waiting on God Season, where more like Job I’m been stripped and pruned. My family does not really understand what is going on, and sometimes may try to suggest things for me to do when I know what awaits me, so learning to say No and create boundaries is wheeewww but needs to be done.

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