When and Where to be Modest: Prioritizing Wisdom over Settings

…And reflecting on how my shift in fashion causes me to cast judgment on others.

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Top & Skirt: Solitaire via Marshalls  ; Earrings: AmazonWatch: c/o MicheleBag: AmazonShoes: Primark x Rita Ora

For nearly a decade, I’ve been modest fashion blogging and influencing- sharing my journey, struggles, and victories with you all. Over the years, I’ve encountered moments of doubt, where I questioned if my outfit choices were truly modest or appropriate. Even when I thought I was making the right decision, there was often this lingering conviction that nudged me otherwise.

But then marriage introduced me to a new layer of wisdom. My husband has been my wise counsel, often providing a perspective on whether something I’m wearing aligns with our values as Christians, first, and then preachers of the Gospel, next. His wisdom has truly deepened my understanding of modesty- adding richness and depth to my fashion choices.

Settings undoubtedly play a role in how we dress, but I sometimes wonder if they are as crucial as the wisdom needed to guide these outfit choices. Take the gym, for instance. A lot of people assume wearing revealing fitness clothes is acceptable because of the setting. “It’s a gym.”  However, I believe that as a Christian, maintaining modesty is essential, regardless of the environment—be it the gym, beach, or pool.

I recently saw a Christian that I follow post a reel of her working out in the gym. The outfit she wore was extremely revealing and immodest, in my opinion. I found myself judging her in my mind. I thought, she’s wearing this for views because this isn’t even her style. See, it’s easy to assume that someone dressing immodestly does so to seek attention. Yet, the Holy Spirit revealed a deeper truth: if craving attention motivates immodest dressing, it’s no different from someone dressing modestly for the same reason, or buying a fancy car to attract attention.

Romans 2:1 says, “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.” This scripture reminds us that our desire to judge others often mirrors our own guilt. We may not have committed the exact sin, but God, Who knows the heart, understands that given the opportunity, we might falter similarly.

1 Samuel 16:7 further emphasizes, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” In this season, let us shift our focus from outward appearances to what lies within our hearts. We simply cannot afford to get this wrong because God will judge those in His household first.

For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? 1 Peter 4: 17

As we navigate our modest fashion journeys, let’s embrace the wisdom that comes from within and Above. Let our choices be a reflection of our hearts, guided by faith and conviction, rather than the changing settings of our environment.

Shere this post with a friend of three! God bless you.

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